Do you and your spouse find yourselves having the same arguments over and over? In this episode, Rebekah and Gabe unpack the communication mistakes that keep couples stuck in painful cycles of conflict. Seemingly small word choices like "you always" and "you never" can instantly trigger defensiveness, and why your tone often communicates more than your actual words.
They share vulnerable examples from their own marriage—from Gabe's direct "bottom line" style to Rebekah's emotional intensity—and how they've learned to replace judgment with curiosity. 
Understand why men rush to "fix" problems when women often just need to be heard, and why verbal affirmation is surprisingly powerful for both partners. You’ll learn the power of "notice and naming" something you admire about your spouse this week—a small shift that can create deeper connection.

The #1 Communication Mistake Couples Make

Relationships

What happens when you discover the roots of your marriage conflicts go back to childhood? In this vulnerable conversation, Lady A's Hillary Scott and her husband Chris Tyrrell join Rebekah and Gabe to share how facing their origin stories transformed their relationship.

Chris bravely discusses how addressing childhood wounds of loneliness helped Hillary see his intense reactions not as a "scary grizzly bear" but as a hurt teenager seeking connection.

Learn the importance of making time for reflection, naming emotions rather than recycling blame, and committing to "return" after conflict. This honest discussion shows how looking backward with curiosity rather than blame creates pathways to healing, bringing redemption to even the most difficult marriage moments.

Your Origin Story: Looking Backward to Move Forward with Hillary Scott & Chris Tyrrell

Why do we need to look back at our past to move forward in marriage? In this meaningful episode, Rebekah and Gabe explore how unresolved childhood experiences shape our marriage conflicts today. They share that the number one trigger in marital fights is actually tone—not words—because "we sense before we make sense" of what our spouse is saying. Drawing from their book "The Fight For Us," they introduce Dr. Chip Dodd's eight primary feelings (hurt, loneliness, sadness, anger, fear, shame, guilt, and gladness) and explain how confessing these emotions transforms them from impairments into gifts. When loneliness is shared, it leads to intimacy; when fear is named, it builds faith.

The Gift of Emotions

How do successful couples work together without losing their connection? In this conversation, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons welcome longtime friends Willie and Korie Robertson (Duck Dynasty) who share their 33-year journey from teenage sweethearts to partners in both marriage and business. They share how they've navigated their different strengths and personalities—from Willie's love of cooking to Korie's organizational skills—and how they've learned to battle through disagreements with respect. You'll learn about honoring each other's unique gifts, abandoning rigid gender roles, and giving each other permission to change and navigate through different seasons of life. 

The Secret to Thriving Together

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same frustrating cycle with your spouse? In this episode, Rebekah and Gabe explore the four "dysfunctional dances" that couples fall into during conflict. They reveal that half of marriages operate in an intense dance (where both partners have strong opinions and high energy), while many others retreat into silence, anxiety, or avoidance. Whether you're dealing with hurt that triggers stonewalling, anger that leads to shouting matches, fear that creates walking on eggshells, or guilt that keeps everything surface-level, this conversation helps identify your unique pattern.  Hear personal experiences of how these unhealthy cycles keep couples emotionally disconnected and how naming your dance is the first step toward breaking free. You'll learn why summer is particularly challenging for marriages and how to reset your relationship before the most stressful seasons hit.

Why Marriages Should Fight

Ever feel like your spouse is the villain in your marriage story? In this honest conversation, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons sit down with pastor Jonathan Pokluda ("JP") who challenges that narrative with a powerful truth: the real enemy isn't who you think it is. JP vulnerably shares how he and his wife Monica found themselves stuck in a dysfunctional dance after 21 years, and how a conversation with Gabe and Rebekah became "literally life-changing" for their marriage. You'll learn how the enemy's favorite tactic is getting you to believe your spouse is "crazy" or the problem, while the path to healing comes through confession, prayer, and fighting for—not against—each other. Whether you're experiencing an intense, silent, avoidant, or anxious marriage, this conversation offers hope that you can overcome what divides and build a marriage that thrives.

The #1 Threat To Your Marriage

In this heartfelt season opener, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons introduce their new series "The Fight For Us" based on their upcoming book. After 28 years of marriage, they share why they're passionate about helping couples move from fighting against each other to fighting for their relationship. Drawing from their own struggles and healing journey, they explain how the Christian marriage covenant isn't just about staying together but thriving together. 

The Fight for Us

New York Times bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker Annie F. Downs confronts the discrepancy that 46% of U.S. adults are single but only 23% of the church is unmarried. Watch as she asks Christian leaders to reframe their theology on singleness and consider the nuance of listening and respecting single men and women the same way we do married men and women. 

Reframing Success for Singles

Trust is built on vulnerability. In Will Chung's church, young people who are searching for something to believe in respond best to open vulnerability among leadership, as it fosters deep conversations unhindered by defense mechanisms. 

Leading with Vulnerability

Malcolm Gladwell claims that physical and psychological closeness will enrich conversations by deepening trust. As our interpersonal communication becomes more and more removed from its original state, we must patiently and intentionally develop deep relationships.

Closeness in Communication

Malcom Gladwell recalls his father's philosophy that even if you are an expert on one topic, others know more about something else. Viewing them as a resource for furthering wisdom will change the way you interact with others.

Others Know More

Material abundance is acting as a catalyst for the deterioration of mental health, the loss of tradition, and the breakdown of the family. Rory Groves, who left the tech industry to start a family-run farm, explains how to recover relational integrity.

The Consequences of Abundance

Why Relationships Matter

Understanding "Social Compact"

Remain…Approaching Those That Disagree with Us

Do You Have Non-Transactional Relationships?

Community Backyard Farming

A probation officer and a former white supremacist share how they formed a transformative and unlikely friendship.

Friendship Against All Odds

Through her own story, Myquillyn Smith shares the true value of home.

What Is Home?

Heather Avis considers the progress—and the opportunity for growth—in the way society views those with special needs.